It’s cool. You like long hair. A lot of people like long hair. Most women around the world probably have long hair, although I haven’t seen any statistics on it lately.
I like long hair, too. But it’s not for everyone. It’s definitely not for me.
Occasionally it gets me down when friends and strangers give me unsolicited feedback about my hair. Usually though, I expect it. There are a lot of requirements out there about what women should look like. For example, we should:
- have pert breasts with standardized nipples,
- cover our grey (unless we’re really young, then we can dye it grey), and
- look like we’re always in our child-bearing years.
It goes on.
Hey, whatever makes you feel good! Go grey, don’t go grey. Whatevs. You can even decide not to shave if you like. The world won’t explode.
I’m just saying that there are a lot of variations out there on how to look, choices we all can make about ourselves and our appearance. I think it can be easy to forget that though, what with the culture we’ve got going for us. It’s mighty prescriptive.
Sometimes it’s hard to tell where your truth even comes from, right? Is it yours or cultural code you’ve internalized?
Maybe being honest is different from being truthful
Not to wade into philosophical waters that I’m not qualified to swim in, but this past Christmas I received a card from a wonderful friend and mentor. In it she wrote:
I think of you as a storyteller – part of a club that speaks the truth – even if it’s imagined.
I love this idea! Okay, so in this context she was referencing a Hans Christian Anderson she was giving me as a gift. But still, truth can be imagined. I think that’s a good guide to keep in mind when deciding how honest to be. Is this my opinion or is it truth? Maybe my opinion isn’t truth. Maybe there is more than one truth! Maybe I need to revisit Plato.
Do you really think I look better with long hair? Because it’s super not flattering on me. I can say that, I’m honest.
Read more about life with short hair in How I became a hair salon snob.
Inspired by Daily Prompt: Truth or Dare.
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